My (30F) married boss (45M) gave me a rose and it made me uncomfortable
I (30F) recently started working as a receptionist at a small law firm. It’s owned by two partners, and one of them (45M) is… very outgoing. He talks to everyone, jokes around, and constantly brings up his lifestyle—his house, money, clients, all of it.
At first, I didn’t think much of it. He’s just that type of person.
But over time, I started noticing something that didn’t sit right with me.
He goes out of his way to interact with me more than anyone else. He’ll come up to my desk just to talk, sometimes about work, sometimes just random things. On multiple occasions, he’s asked me if I want to grab lunch with him or share food during my break.
I always say no.
I make it clear that I bring my own lunch and prefer to keep my breaks to myself.
Still, he keeps offering.
Even when he goes out to buy snacks for himself, he asks if I want something. I decline every time, but a couple of times he’s brought me something anyway.
What makes it more uncomfortable is that he doesn’t do this for anyone else in the office.
He’s friendly with everyone—but this kind of attention feels… targeted.
Today made things worse.
It was his wedding anniversary, so he brought a bouquet of colorful roses to the office. He asked his assistant to wrap them nicely for his wife.
Then, in front of me, he took a single yellow rose out of the bouquet and handed it to me.
“This is for you,” he said.
I laughed awkwardly and tried to brush it off. I even asked if everyone was getting one.
He smiled and said, “No, just you,” and placed it on my desk.
That’s when I felt really uncomfortable.
As soon as he walked away, I quietly gave the rose back to his assistant and asked her to put it back into the bouquet for his wife.
Later, he came back and asked where the rose was.
I told him I returned it.
He looked a little offended but quickly said it was “just a gesture” to celebrate me working there.
Maybe it was.
But it didn’t feel that way.
I don’t want to overthink things or accuse someone of something they didn’t intend. But at the same time, these small actions keep adding up, and they’re making me uneasy.
I can’t ignore that feeling.
So now I’m stuck wondering—
Am I overreacting… or is this actually crossing a line?
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